Keep going

It’s no secret to those few bloggers and friends who continue to follow my posts, that my energy for this is waning. I would just like to say thank you for sticking with me. I will be back to reading your posts and writing my own, hopefully soon. Whoever thought when I was in the throes of trying to keep up with all your posts that I would ever say, I miss reading what you’re writing. But I do.

I’ve been reading a small Advent book I purchase many years ago called Let it Be: Advent and Christmas Meditations for Women, edited by Therese Johnson Borchard. It clearly has a religious bent, but not overly so. Many of the readings have secular value. I would like to share a small excerpt from today’s reading that I found particularly appropriate.

Be Patient, Stand Firm

“Commitment and enthusiasm are two concepts that are, unfortunately, often confused. Commitment is that quality of life that depends more on the ability to wait for something to come to fulfillment—through good days and bad—than it does on being able to sustain an emotional extreme for it over a long period of time. Enthusiasm is excitement fed by satisfaction. The tangle of the two ideas, however, is exactly what leads so many people to fall off in the middle of a project.

“When the work ceases to feel good, when praying for peace gets nowhere, when the marriage counseling fails to reinvigorate the marriage, when the projects and the plans and the hopes worse than fail, they fizzle, that’s when the commitment really starts. . .

“When we feel most discouraged, most fatigued, most alone is precisely the time we must not quit.”

—Joan Chittister, Songs of Joy

If you are struggling with a project, I hope you will keep going.



27 thoughts on “Keep going”

  1. It’s been such a heart wrenching year for you. I’m glad you are finding moments of peace and blessing. those of us who are afar can only hold you in our hearts and prayers. I do so hoping that angels will surround you with comfort. Be gentle with your precious self.

    1. I am finding more and more moments of peace and blessing. Thanks you for your good wishes and support. I think I have turned a corner. I know I will have rough moments, and maybe even rough days ahead. But I also know now that they will pass, and I will survive them. I hope you are enjoying your adventure. I may not catch up with you until the kids all leave in January, but I will most certainly do it then.

    1. Don’t quit everything. Maybe just something. 🙂 I quit the 365 photo-a-day challenge, and it was quite freeing. It took way more time than it was worth in the whole picture of my life.

  2. Sometimes Christine, all we need is some space, and to spend some quiet time with our own thoughts… Healing from within takes time.. Take all the time you need…
    Sending you Yuletide Blessings
    Love Sue xox

    1. Thank you, Sue. I have taken time and allowed myself freedom to feel whatever it is I feel at the moment. I am beginning to feel better. I remember the words so many others who have experienced loss told me: you never get “over” it, you get used to it. I have a hole in my heart and in my life, but I can live around it. That is a good lesson to learn, because I suspect I will have more holes before I exit this planet. Sometimes that frightens me more than ever before. But for today, right now, all is well. And the snow is falling.

      1. Christine, I am pleased all is well right now… Keep snug and warm as the snow I expect is making your woodland around you like a picture post card…
        Happy Holidays with your family xox Hugs Sue xox

    1. Thanks, Eric. I have a closet full of needle-work projects, a shelf full of books begun, and many other examples of quitting. I am a firm believer in the idea that we have to allow ourselves to quit, or we won’t be willing to try anything new for fear of being stuck with it.

      I also also agree with Chittister, that most often the things we want to see through for many of the reasons you mention in your blog, will enter a phase of disenchantment, at which point our commitment has to kick in. I believe in the importance of commitment in our lives.

      Thanks for posting the link to your thoughts on this.

  3. I’m OK with “letting go” of things that are no longer working, after appropriate evaluation and introspection. Our time here is limited. What worked yesterday, may not work today.

    Letting go of what isn’t working frees up resources for something that’s a better fit for who we’ve become:

    * The journey between what you once were and who you are now becoming is where the dance of life really takes place. ~ Barbara DeAngelis

    * A good traveler has no fixed plans, and is not intent on arriving. ~ Lao Tzu

      1. That is the challenge, isn’t it, to listen with both heart and head. Thanks for the luck. I’m not entirely sure what it’s for, but I’ll take it. I’m sure I will be able to use it.

    1. It may be that some of who we are now becoming is a product of the commitments we have made and kept. Life is a mystery. We each have to find our own way within our own priorities.

      I gave Mark a small photo years ago with words very similar to those you quote from Lao Tzu: “Life is a journey, not a destination.” So on this we can agree.

    1. How nice of you, Patti. I thought of you the other day. I saw a bird at our feeders that I am not sure about. It was all gray, although it’s head looks a little brownish. I don’t think it was a junco. Do you know if it could have been some kind of brown head cowbird? I never got a good shot of it. It was a smaller bird, like the chickadees, or titmice. Any ideas?

      1. The female brown-headed cowbird is gray all over, but a bit larger than chickadees. Juncos are white underneath, a good way to tell them apart. We’ve not seen any juncos yet this year. 😦

  4. This post is an important reminder — I’ve been there — and this truly rings true: “the hopes worse than fail, they fizzle…that’s when the commitment really starts. . .When we feel most discouraged, most fatigued, most alone is precisely the time we must not quit.”

    It’s so hard, but so true and often is easier said than done (at least for me). Sending hugs and greetings your way, my friend. xox

  5. Hi Christine .. I’m glad you’re feeling more settled – as you say ‘holes’ can be skirted … and when you’re ready – we’ll be here.

    I’ve learnt loads and still am from my experiences … and that is comforting in many ways – and just adds to the timbre of life

    I hope you can have a blessed and peaceful time and let’s hope the New Year eases things some more … I love the snow, but sincerely hope we don’t get snowed in! Love your header photo .. cheers and with hugs and lots of thoughts – Hilary xoxoxox

  6. Do what you feel is best for you and for what you need. I have had an exhausting year, as my place of employment’s change in computer systems has made demands upon me which are difficult for one with chronic fatigue. That said, I have not published much, but know that after taking time to take care of myself a place for it will return once again and….may even take a different shape than before. I have enjoyed your site and whatever path you choose I know it will be the best one for you. Best Wishes for 2014!


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